You May Be Sorry You Apologized (NPR)

We tell ourselves that owning up to our transgressions will make us feel better, so then why does refusing to apologize feel so good? In a recent study, researchers found that subjects who refused to say “I’m sorry” reported feeling much better than those who drafted an apology letter.



  1. Dr. Daniel Alvino '62 says:

    And what egomaniac said that an apology is designed to make the transgressors feel good? If there is a need to apologize, isn’t there an assumption that a mistake or a wrong has been committed? Why do all of our actions have to be so self-serving? If my thoughts on this matter offend anyone, I do apologize for my words. How I feel about my apology is of little consequence to me if my actions were appropriate.

  2. Thom Wooten says:

    Dr. Alvino:

    Your thoughts are not offensive to me.

    In my opinion a mature person should have no problem apologizing.

    Additionally, I want to know if I am wrong about something. I cannot make a good decision or take a better course of action if I do not know what the reality is.

    Any mistake or wrong committed should be a teaching moment for one to be more careful and considerate, prior to taking an action.

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